{"id":259038,"date":"2025-04-18T00:20:42","date_gmt":"2025-04-17T22:20:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/coachlab.hu\/?p=259038"},"modified":"2026-06-02T18:54:25","modified_gmt":"2026-06-02T16:54:25","slug":"most-important-questions-if-you-want-to-be-empowered","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachlab.hu\/en\/blog\/legfontosabb-kerdesek-ha-valtoztatni-akarsz\/","title":{"rendered":"The most important questions to ask yourself if you want to make a change"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><a href=\"https:\/\/coachlab.hu\/en\/blog\/most-important-questions-if-you-want-to-be-empowered\/\">The most important questions to ask yourself if you want to make a change<\/a><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Change is the only constant in life, Heraclitus once said, and this truth is perhaps more valid today than ever before. In our careers, relationships or personal development, we all face a moment when we feel we need to change. But how do we start? What questions should we consider before making a major change?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In this article, we have gathered key questions to help you see the change process more clearly, make better-informed decisions and successfully implement the transformation. Whether it's a career change, a move, or a change in personal habits, these questions can serve as a guide through the maze of change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1. Why do I really want to change?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This is perhaps the most important question you should ask yourself. Understanding the real motivation for change is key to successful transformation. Often, we only see the surface problems, while deeper, underlying dissatisfactions lie in the background.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Do I really want to change my job, or is it more a problem with the workplace culture and management style?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Do I want to change my place of residence or should I change my daily routine?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Do I want to end my relationship or should we work on our communication patterns?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A \"mi\u00e9rt\" k\u00e9rd\u00e9s megv\u00e1laszol\u00e1sa sor\u00e1n \u00e9rdemes t\u00f6bb r\u00e9tegben gondolkodni. Az els\u0151 v\u00e1laszod ut\u00e1n k\u00e9rdezd meg \u00fajra magadt\u00f3l: \"\u00c9s ez mi\u00e9rt fontos sz\u00e1momra?\" Folytasd ezt a folyamatot, am\u00edg el nem jutsz egy olyan v\u00e1laszhoz, ami m\u00e1r m\u00e9lyen rezon\u00e1l benned.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A coaching folyamatban gyakran haszn\u00e1ljuk a \"3 Mi\u00e9rt\" technik\u00e1t ennek felt\u00e1r\u00e1s\u00e1ra. Ez seg\u00edt megk\u00fcl\u00f6nb\u00f6ztetni a val\u00f3di motiv\u00e1ci\u00f3t a felsz\u00edni probl\u00e9m\u00e1kt\u00f3l, \u00e9s olyan megold\u00e1sokat tal\u00e1lni, amelyek nem csak a t\u00fcneteket, hanem a kiv\u00e1lt\u00f3 okokat is kezelik.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2. What do I really want to achieve?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A v\u00e1ltoztat\u00e1s \u00f6nmag\u00e1ban nem c\u00e9l, hanem eszk\u00f6z valamilyen k\u00edv\u00e1nt \u00e1llapot el\u00e9r\u00e9s\u00e9hez. Miel\u0151tt a \"hogyan\"-ra koncentr\u00e1ln\u00e1l, pontosan meg kell hat\u00e1roznod a \"mit\" \u2013 vagyis azt a c\u00e9lt, amit el szeretn\u00e9l \u00e9rni.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Imagine in detail what the situation you want to achieve looks like:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>How would you feel in this new situation?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>How would you spend a typical day?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Who would surround you?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>What values would be realised in your life?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A c\u00e9l pontos megfogalmaz\u00e1sa sor\u00e1n haszn\u00e1lj pozit\u00edv \u00e1ll\u00edt\u00e1sokat. Ahelyett, hogy arra f\u00f3kusz\u00e1ln\u00e1l, mit\u0151l akarsz megszabadulni (\"nem akarok stresszes munk\u00e1t\"), fogalmazd meg, mit szeretn\u00e9l helyette (\"olyan munk\u00e1ra v\u00e1gyom, ahol kreat\u00edv lehetek \u00e9s \u00e9rt\u00e9kelik a hozz\u00e1j\u00e1rul\u00e1somat\").<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><a href=\"https:\/\/coachlab.hu\/en\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Coaching<\/a> a very useful tool for <a href=\"https:\/\/coachlab.hu\/en\/blog\/sixteen-guided-tours\/#celkituzes-es-tervezes\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Setting SMART targets<\/a>: setting Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Time-bound objectives. This structure helps to translate aspirations into concrete, achievable plans.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image aligncenter size-full\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"640\" height=\"325\" src=\"https:\/\/CoachLab.hu\/wp-content\/uploads\/A-legfontosabb-kerdesek-amiket-fel-kell-tenned-magadnak-ha-valtoztatni-akarsz-change-3256330_640.webp\" alt=\"The most important questions to ask yourself if you want to make a change\" class=\"wp-image-259040\" srcset=\"https:\/\/CoachLab.hu\/wp-content\/uploads\/A-legfontosabb-kerdesek-amiket-fel-kell-tenned-magadnak-ha-valtoztatni-akarsz-change-3256330_640.webp 640w, https:\/\/CoachLab.hu\/wp-content\/uploads\/A-legfontosabb-kerdesek-amiket-fel-kell-tenned-magadnak-ha-valtoztatni-akarsz-change-3256330_640-480x244.webp 480w\" sizes=\"(min-width: 0px) and (max-width: 480px) 480px, (min-width: 481px) 640px, 100vw\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">The most important questions to ask yourself if you want to make a change<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3. What are the real consequences of change?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Every change makes waves - not just in our lives, but in the lives of those around us. When considering change, it is worth considering all the possible consequences.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Make a detailed impact assessment:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>How will the change affect your financial situation in the short and long term?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>How will it affect your immediate environment (family, friends, colleagues)?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Which opportunities will be opened up and which will be closed by the change?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>What positive and negative emotional effects can you expect?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In coaching practice, we often use the decision matrix, where we analyse the pros and cons of change in both the short and long term. This helps to see the bigger picture more realistically and to prepare for the difficulties that may arise.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Remember that change brings not only gains but also losses. You need to take time to process these, even if the overall change is positive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">4. What resources do I have to make the change?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Understanding the resources available to you is essential for successful change. These can be not only material, but also personal, social and environmental.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Take inventory in the following areas:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Internal resources<\/strong>: Skills, knowledge, experience, personality traits, values, motivation<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Material resources<\/strong>: Financial reserves, investments, assets<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Social resources<\/strong>: Supportive family, friends, mentors, professional contacts<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Resources in time<\/strong>: How much time do you have to implement the change and the transition period?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A <a href=\"https:\/\/coachbp.hu\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">coaching process<\/a>ban sokszor haszn\u00e1lunk \"er\u0151forr\u00e1s-t\u00e9rk\u00e9pet\", amely vizualiz\u00e1lja ezeket a ter\u00fcleteket, \u00e9s seg\u00edt azonos\u00edtani, hol van sz\u00fcks\u00e9g kieg\u00e9sz\u00edt\u00e9sre vagy meger\u0151s\u00edt\u00e9sre.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In particular, it is important to check whether you have sufficient buffer resources (time, money, energy) to make the change a success. Many change attempts fail because we do not anticipate the unexpected difficulties that arise during the transition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">5. What are the biggest obstacles and how will I overcome them?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There are obstacles to any significant change - these can be external circumstances or internal barriers. The key to successful change is not the absence of obstacles, but the preparation for them and a strategy to overcome them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Identify potential barriers in the categories below:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>External barriers<\/strong>: financial constraints, time pressure, social or family expectations, legal or administrative difficulties<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Internal barriers<\/strong>: Fears, self-doubt, ingrained habits, lack of skills, self-sabotaging thoughts<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">For each barrier identified, develop a concrete action plan. This could be developing a skill, asking for help, developing alternative solutions or consciously facing fears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A coaching gyakorlatban gyakran haszn\u00e1ljuk a \"Tegy\u00fck fel, hogy...\" technik\u00e1t: \"Tegy\u00fck fel, hogy siker\u00fclt lek\u00fczdened ezt az akad\u00e1lyt. Hogyan csin\u00e1ltad?\" Ez a gondolkod\u00e1si keret seg\u00edt kreat\u00edv megold\u00e1sokat tal\u00e1lni \u00e9s er\u0151s\u00edti az \u00f6nbizalmat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">6. What small steps can I take to start making a change?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A jelent\u0151s \u00e9letv\u00e1ltoz\u00e1sok gyakran megtorpannak, mert t\u00fal nagynak, t\u00fal komplexnek t\u0171nnek. A \"kapu elm\u00e9let\" szerint a sikerhez vezet\u0151 \u00fat kis, k\u00f6nnyen teljes\u00edthet\u0151 l\u00e9p\u00e9seken kereszt\u00fcl vezet, amelyek fokozatosan \u00e9p\u00edtenek egym\u00e1sra.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Break the change down into small, manageable steps:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>What is one small thing you can do today to make a difference?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>What is the smallest change that would make a noticeable difference?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>How can you move forward gradually, building on previous successes?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A coaching folyamatban sokszor dolgozunk \"mikro-elk\u00f6telezetts\u00e9gekkel\" \u2013 olyan apr\u00f3 v\u00e1llal\u00e1sokkal, amelyek k\u00f6nnyen teljes\u00edthet\u0151k, \u00e9s gyors siker\u00e9lm\u00e9nyt adnak. Ezek a kis gy\u0151zelmek \u00e9p\u00edtik az \u00f6nbizalmat \u00e9s a momentumot a nagyobb v\u00e1ltoz\u00e1sok fel\u00e9.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It's worth putting these small steps in writing and celebrating each milestone achieved, however small.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">7. Who can help me in this process?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Change rarely happens in a vacuum - a supportive environment is key to success. It's worth thinking about who you can count on on your change journey.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Think about the following questions:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Who are the people who unconditionally support you in the process of change?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Who has knowledge or experience that could be useful to you?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Do you need professional help (coach, therapist, counsellor)?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Who are those who might resist change?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A coaching szeml\u00e9let azt tartja, hogy a v\u00e1ltoz\u00e1shoz gyakran sz\u00fcks\u00e9ges egy \"t\u00e1mogat\u00f3 h\u00e1rmas\": \u00e9rzelmi t\u00e1mogat\u00f3k, szakmai seg\u00edt\u0151k \u00e9s elsz\u00e1moltat\u00f3k, akik felel\u0151ss\u00e9gre vonnak az \u00edg\u00e9reteid betart\u00e1s\u00e1\u00e9rt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Remember that asking for help is not a sign of weakness, but of real strength and self-awareness. The most successful people do not achieve results alone, but with the help of a supportive community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">8. How will I know if the change has been successful?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A key element of the change process is the measurability of success. If we don't know what we consider success, how will we know we have achieved it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Define the criteria for success:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>What concrete, measurable results would you like to see?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>What feelings and experiences would you like to have?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>What feedback would you like to get from your environment?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Over what timeframe do you consider change to be successful?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A coaching gyakorlatban gyakran haszn\u00e1lunk \"siker-napl\u00f3t\", ahol a kliens r\u00f6gz\u00edti a v\u00e1ltoz\u00e1s apr\u00f3 \u00e9s nagyobb jeleit. Ez nemcsak a halad\u00e1s m\u00e9r\u00e9s\u00e9t seg\u00edti, hanem motiv\u00e1ci\u00f3s eszk\u00f6zk\u00e9nt is szolg\u00e1l a nehezebb id\u0151szakokban.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It is also worth setting intermediate milestones to show that you are on the right track, even if you haven't quite reached the final goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">9. What if the change doesn't go the way I want?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Life rarely goes exactly according to plan, and the process of change can be full of unexpected twists and turns. Flexibility and adaptability are just as important as setting firm goals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Be prepared for different scenarios:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Mi a \"B\" terved, ha az eredeti elk\u00e9pzel\u00e9s nem v\u00e1lik be?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>How do you know if you need to change the original plan?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>What signs are you looking for that indicate you need to change your strategy?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A coaching szeml\u00e9letben hangs\u00falyos a \"rugalmas kitart\u00e1s\" \u2013 az a k\u00e9pess\u00e9g, hogy kitartasz a c\u00e9l mellett, mik\u00f6zben rugalmasan alak\u00edtod a hozz\u00e1 vezet\u0151 utat a v\u00e1ltoz\u00f3 k\u00f6r\u00fclm\u00e9nyekhez.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ne feledd, hogy a \"kudarc\" gyakran \u00e9rt\u00e9kes tanul\u00e1si lehet\u0151s\u00e9g, \u00e9s a sikeres v\u00e1ltoz\u00e1shoz vezet\u0151 \u00fat ritk\u00e1n egyenes vonal\u00fa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">10. What can I learn from this process, regardless of the outcome?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Change is not only valuable for the end result, but the process itself offers many opportunities for improvement. Developing a learning mindset helps to find value even in the face of difficulties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Think about the following:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>What personal skills can you develop during the change process?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>What can you learn about yourself when facing challenges?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>How can you use this experience for future changes?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A coaching folyamatban gyakran haszn\u00e1ljuk a \"metaperspekt\u00edva\" gyakorlatot: \"Ha \u00e9vek m\u00falva visszatekintesz erre az id\u0151szakra, mit gondolsz, mi lesz a legfontosabb tanuls\u00e1g sz\u00e1modra?\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This approach helps to maintain openness and the possibility of progress even when change is not exactly as originally envisaged.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Summary<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The path to change is rarely easy, but thinking through the above questions can significantly increase the chances of a successful transformation. Remember that real, lasting change takes time - it is not a one-off event, but a process that requires patience and persistence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The key, according to the coaching approach, is not necessarily a perfect plan or flawless execution, but awareness, flexibility and openness to continuous learning. Asking the right questions is the first step on this path.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you feel you need help with the change process, consider engaging a qualified coach who can provide personalised support in this exciting, challenging but highly rewarding journey.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Want expert help with the change process? Book a free consultation on our website and let's discover together how you can successfully change and grow!<\/strong><\/p>\n<span class=\"et_bloom_bottom_trigger\"><\/span>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":259040,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-259038","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-coaching"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/coachlab.hu\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/259038","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/coachlab.hu\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/coachlab.hu\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/coachlab.hu\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/coachlab.hu\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=259038"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/coachlab.hu\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/259038\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":15769108,"href":"https:\/\/coachlab.hu\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/259038\/revisions\/15769108"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/coachlab.hu\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/259040"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/coachlab.hu\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=259038"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/coachlab.hu\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=259038"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/coachlab.hu\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=259038"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}