{"id":257567,"date":"2025-03-07T21:21:29","date_gmt":"2025-03-07T20:21:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/coachlab.hu\/?p=257567"},"modified":"2026-06-02T18:54:11","modified_gmt":"2026-06-02T16:54:11","slug":"onconfidence-and-dealing-with-failure","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachlab.hu\/en\/blog\/onbizalom-es-kudarc-kezelese-valjunk-ellenallobba\/","title":{"rendered":"Self-confidence and coping with failure; How to become more resilient in the face of adversity?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Self-confidence and dealing with failure; How to become more resilient in the face of adversity?<\/a><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

5 Key lessons learned<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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  1. Failure is not a destination, but part of progress<\/strong> - A legsikeresebb emberek karrierj\u00fck sor\u00e1n gyakran t\u00f6bb kudarcot \u00e9lnek \u00e1t, mint az \u00e1tlag.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. Self-confidence is a learnable skill<\/strong> - Specifikus technik\u00e1kkal \u00e9s gyakorlatokkal b\u00e1rki fejlesztheti \u00f6nbizalm\u00e1t.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  3. How to deal with failures is more important than the failures themselves<\/strong> - Az \u00e9rtelmez\u00e9si keret alapvet\u0151en befoly\u00e1solja j\u00f6v\u0151beli sikeress\u00e9g\u00fcnket.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  4. Developing a flexible mindset is key<\/strong> - A \"n\u00f6veked\u00e9si szeml\u00e9letm\u00f3d\" lehet\u0151v\u00e9 teszi, hogy a kih\u00edv\u00e1sokat lehet\u0151s\u00e9gk\u00e9nt l\u00e1ssuk.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  5. Regular reflection and self-assessment builds resilience<\/strong> - A tudatos feldolgoz\u00e1s seg\u00edt a kudarcok tanuls\u00e1gainak be\u00e9p\u00edt\u00e9s\u00e9ben.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
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    Getting up after a failure is perhaps one of the most difficult human experiences. Yet those moments when something fails are as much a part of our journey as the great victories. Research shows that successful people experience more failures, not fewer - the difference lies in how they deal with them. Thomas Edison, who made over 1,000 failed experiments before developing the light bulb, famously said:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    \"Nem vallottam kudarcot. Csup\u00e1n 1000 m\u00f3dj\u00e1t tal\u00e1ltam meg annak, ahogyan nem m\u0171k\u00f6dik.\"<\/h3>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

    67% of Hungarian adults say they have a strong lack of self-confidence, according to a 2023 survey<\/strong>; in your professional or private life. This rate is remarkably and, in our view, surprisingly high; it highlights the fact that self-confidence and failure management<\/a> is important to most of us and area to be developed<\/strong>! But how to build or recover or strengthen the self-confidence<\/a>, and how can we put failures at the service of progress? This article offers practical guidance on how to do this; a daily challenge that affects us all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    The anatomy of self-confidence<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    The self-confidence<\/a> not an innate, immutable trait; an ability that can be developed. In psychological terms, self-confidence consists of three main elements:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    1. The Self-assessment<\/strong> - hogyan l\u00e1tjuk saj\u00e1t \u00e9rt\u00e9k\u00fcnket;<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    2. Faith in ourselves or we can also call it selfnEfficiency<\/strong>: - mennyire hisz\u00fcnk abban, hogy k\u00e9pesek vagyunk megoldani a probl\u00e9m\u00e1kat;<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    3. Self-acceptance<\/strong> - k\u00e9pesek vagyunk-e \u00e9s ha igen, mennyire vagyunk k\u00e9pesek elfogadni er\u0151ss\u00e9geinket \u00e9s gyenges\u00e9geinket egyar\u00e1nt;<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

      When we fail, all three elements can be damaged. The good news is that with targeted strategies, each of these areas can be improved!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      According to research by the Hungarian Psychological Association, people's self-confidence differs significantly in different areas of life. Someone can be confident professionally but insecure in social relationships, or vice versa. This indicates that self-confidence is context-dependent and should be developed in a domain-specific way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      The psychology and physiological effects of failure<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

      Amikor kudarcot \u00e9l\u00fcnk \u00e1t, test\u00fcnk stresszreakci\u00f3val v\u00e1laszol. A kortizol (stresszhormon) szintje megemelkedik, az amigdala (az agy \u00e9rzelmi k\u00f6zpontja) aktiv\u00e1l\u00f3dik, \u00e9s a \"harcolj vagy menek\u00fclj\" reakci\u00f3 bekapcsol. Ez a biol\u00f3giai v\u00e1lasz evol\u00faci\u00f3s szempontb\u00f3l hasznos volt a t\u00fal\u00e9l\u00e9shez, de a modern \u00e9letben gyakran akad\u00e1lyozza a racion\u00e1lis gondolkod\u00e1st \u00e9s cselekv\u00e9st.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Reaction after failure<\/th>Physiological response<\/th>Psychological impact<\/th>Long-term consequence<\/th><\/tr><\/thead>
      Avoidance<\/td>Cortisol \u2191, adrenaline \u2191<\/td>Anxiety, fear<\/td>Self-limitation, narrowing of options<\/td><\/tr>
      Overcompensation<\/td>Dopamine \u2193, serotonin \u2193<\/td>Fatigue, burnout<\/td>Reduced quality of life, self-esteem problems<\/td><\/tr>
      Adaptive processing<\/td>DHEA \u2191, Oxitocin \u2191<\/td>Learning, growth<\/td>Increased flexibility, increased self-confidence<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

      The table shows that the way in which failure is dealt with is a key determinant of its long-term effects. Conscious processing also supports the development of resilience at a biological level.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Attitudes to failure: fixed attitudes vs. evolving attitudes<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

      Stanford University psychologist Carol Dweck has been researching the mindset of successful people for decades. Her findings show that there are two basic types of mindsets:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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      1. Fixed mindset (fixed mindset)<\/strong>: Abilities and qualities are seen as innate, immutable gifts. Failure in this framework leads to a questioning of personal worth.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
      2. A growth mindset<\/strong>:: He sees skills as something to be developed and failure as a learning opportunity. This approach allows for greater flexibility in adaptation.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

        According to a survey of Hungarian undergraduates, students with a developmental approach were 42% more likely to retake failed exams and 35% more likely to score better on their second attempt than their fixed approach peers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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        Managing self-confidence and failure How to become more resilient in the face of adversity<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

        7 practical strategies to boost confidence and deal with failure<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

        1. Transforming the internal dialogue<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

        Az \u00f6nmagunkkal folytatott besz\u00e9lget\u00e9s min\u0151s\u00e9ge alapvet\u0151en befoly\u00e1solja \u00f6nbizalmunkat. Az \"Ezt sosem fogom tudni megcsin\u00e1lni\" t\u00edpus\u00fa gondolatok helyett pr\u00f3b\u00e1ld meg ezeket a megfogalmaz\u00e1sokat::<\/p>\n\n\n\n