{"id":251839,"date":"2024-06-19T22:16:11","date_gmt":"2024-06-19T20:16:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/coachlab.hu\/?p=251839"},"modified":"2026-06-02T18:52:21","modified_gmt":"2026-06-02T16:52:21","slug":"coaching-for-better-results","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachlab.hu\/en\/blog\/coaching-az-erzelmek-jobb-megertesere\/","title":{"rendered":"Coaching is an increasingly popular method to better understand and manage emotions"},"content":{"rendered":"

Coaching is an increasingly popular method to better understand and manage emotions<\/a><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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Managing emotions effectively is essential and inevitable leadership skills<\/strong>. The naming of our emotions - which psychologists and business coach<\/a>ok \"c\u00edmk\u00e9z\u00e9snek\" h\u00edvnak \u2013 az els\u0151 fontos l\u00e9p\u00e9s ahhoz, hogy hat\u00e9konyan kezelj\u00fck \u0151ket. Ez azonban nehezebb, mint gondoln\u00e1nk; sokan k\u00f6z\u00fcl\u00fcnk k\u00fczdenek azzal, hogy pontosan megnevezz\u00e9k, mit is \u00e9reznek, \u00e9s gyakran a legnyilv\u00e1nval\u00f3bb \"c\u00edmke\" nem felt\u00e9tlen\u00fcl a legpontosabb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are many reasons for this: we have been taught that strong emotions must be suppressed. There are certain (sometimes unspoken) social and organisational rules that prohibit their expression. Or we have simply never learned to describe our emotions accurately. Consider the following two examples:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anik\u00f3 egy \u00e9rtekezleten van Ferenccel, aki az eg\u00e9sz id\u0151 alatt olyan dolgokat mond, amikt\u0151l majd' megpukkad. Azon k\u00edv\u00fcl, hogy minduntalan f\u00e9lbeszak\u00edtja, mindenkit megint eml\u00e9keztetett arra az egy projektre, amin dolgozott \u00e9s ami cs\u0151d\u00f6t mondott. D\u00fch\u00f6s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Zsolt haza\u00e9r a hossz\u00fa nap ut\u00e1n \u00e9s s\u00f3hajt, mik\u00f6zben leakasztja a kab\u00e1tj\u00e1t. A feles\u00e9ge megk\u00e9rdezi, mi a baj. \"Csak stresszes vagyok\" \u2013 mondja, mik\u00f6zben el\u0151veszi a laptopj\u00e1t, hogy befejezzen egy jelent\u00e9st.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Coaching<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

The anger and stress<\/a> azok az \u00e9rzelmek, amelyeket leggyakrabban tapasztalunk a munkahelyen - vagy legal\u00e1bbis ezek a kifejez\u00e9sek, amiket a leggyakrabban haszn\u00e1lunk r\u00e1juk. M\u00e9gis, ezek gyakran csak \u00e1lc\u00e1k a m\u00e9lyebb \u00e9rzelmek m\u00f6g\u00f6tt, amiket pontosabban \u00e9s \u00e1rnyaltabban is le tudn\u00e1nk \u00edrni, hogy nagyobb \u00e9rzelmi rugalmass\u00e1got fejlessz\u00fcnk ki - egy kritikus k\u00e9pess\u00e9get, amely lehet\u0151v\u00e9 teszi sz\u00e1munkra, hogy sikeresebben m\u0171k\u00f6dj\u00fcnk egy\u00fctt \u00f6nmagunkkal \u00e9s a vil\u00e1ggal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes, Aniko might be angry about something, but what if she's also sad? Sad because her project has failed, and perhaps worried that this failure will follow her through and hinder her career. With Francis constantly interrupting him, this concern seems increasingly justified. Why didn't the project work? And what will happen to his job now? All of these emotions are fuelling his anger, but they are separate emotions in themselves that he needs to name and deal with. These can be helped by coach<\/a> or a psychologist.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00c9s mi van, ha Zsolt stressze m\u00f6g\u00f6tt val\u00f3j\u00e1ban az \u00e1ll, hogy egyszer\u0171en bizonytalan a p\u00e1lyav\u00e1laszt\u00e1s\u00e1t illet\u0151en? A hossz\u00fa napok r\u00e9gen m\u00e9g sz\u00f3rakoztat\u00f3k voltak - mi\u00e9rt nem azok m\u00e1r? Biztosan stresszes, de mi \u00e1ll em\u00f6g\u00f6tt? Ilyen vagy hasonl\u00f3 esetekben is seg\u00edthet a coach<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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These questions open up a whole world of possible exploration and answers for Aniko and Zsolt. Just like them, we need a more nuanced emotional vocabulary, not only for the sake of accuracy, but because if we misdiagnose our emotions, we will also misreact to them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ha azt hissz\u00fck, hogy a d\u00fch\u00f6t kell kezeln\u00fcnk, akkor m\u00e1shogy fogunk hozz\u00e1\u00e1llni, mintha csal\u00f3dotts\u00e1got vagy aggodalmat \u00e9rezn\u00e9nk - vagy lehet, hogy egy\u00e1ltal\u00e1n nem foglalkozunk vel\u00fck.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It has been shown that people who do not acknowledge and manage their emotions report worse well-being and more physical symptoms of stress, such as headaches. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The cost of avoiding our feelings is high. On the flip side, if we have the right vocabulary, we can see the real problem more clearly - we can sort out a confusing experience, understand it better and make a plan with our coach to deal with it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Three ways to perceive our emotions more accurately:<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Expand your emotional vocabulary <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Words matter.<\/strong> If you experience strong emotion, take some time to consider what you want to call it.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

But don't stop there<\/strong>: once identified, try to two more words to find<\/strong>, ami le\u00edrja, hogyan \u00e9rez. Meglep\u0151dhet az \u00e9rzelmei sz\u00e9less\u00e9g\u00e9n - vagy azon, hogy egy m\u00e9lyebb \u00e9rzelmet t\u00e1rt fel a nyilv\u00e1nval\u00f3bb m\u00f6g\u00f6tt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A list of emotive terms; you can find many more if you type any of them into Google or any search engine.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Happiness,<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

joy, satisfaction, adoration, enthusiasm, love, tenderness, intimacy, passion, <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fear,<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

nervousness, anxiety, fear, panic, regret, guilt, shame, confusion <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Coaching<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Loneliness,<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

abandonment, disillusionment, hopelessness <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Harag,<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

anger, irritability, indignation, hatred <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Undor,<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

disgust, dislike, contempt surprise, <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Amazement,<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

amazement, astonishment <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sadness,<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

depression, grief, mourning, despair<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Ha pontosan meg tudja fogalmazni, hogy izgatott egy \u00faj \u00e1ll\u00e1s miatt (nem csak \"ideges\"), vagy megb\u00edzik egy koll\u00e9g\u00e1ban (nem csak azt mondja, hogy \"\u0151 rendes fick\u00f3\"), akkor ez seg\u00edteni fogja jobban megalapozni a sz\u00e1nd\u00e9kait a szereppel vagy a kapcsolattal, ami nagyobb es\u00e9llyel vezet majd sikerhez az \u00fat v\u00e9g\u00e9n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ugyanilyen fontos ezt tenni a \"pozit\u00edv\" \u00e9rzelmekkel is, nem csak a \"negat\u00edvakkal\". <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Consider the intensity of emotion <\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"Coaching<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Hajlamosak vagyunk alapvet\u0151 le\u00edr\u00f3khoz kapkodni, mint a \"d\u00fch\u00f6s\" vagy \"stresszes\", m\u00e9g akkor is, amikor az \u00e9rzelmeink sokkal enyh\u00e9bbek. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Volt egy \u00fcgyfelem, Ede (nem az igazi neve), aki probl\u00e9m\u00e1kkal k\u00fczd\u00f6tt a h\u00e1zass\u00e1g\u00e1ban; gyakran \u00edrta le a feles\u00e9g\u00e9t \"d\u00fch\u00f6snek\", \u00e9s \u0151 maga is gyakran d\u00fch\u00f6s lett cser\u00e9be. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

But as the emotional vocabulary list shows, each emotion comes in different shades. When we talked about what other words could be used to describe his wife's emotions, Ede realised that there were times when his wife might have just been nervous or impatient. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This realisation transformed their relationship, because Ede suddenly noticed that his wife had not been angry all this time. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This meant that he could actually respond to his wife's specific feelings and concerns without getting angry himself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Likewise, in your own self-assessment, it matters whether you are angry or just grumpy, grieving or just discouraged, content or merely contented.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While labelling your emotions, rate them on a scale of 1 to 10. <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

How deeply do you feel the emotion? How urgent or strong? Would you choose different words to describe it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

By James Pennebaker, who has been researching the relationship between writing and emotional processing for 40 years. His experiments have shown that people who wrote about emotionally charged episodes had significantly improved physical and their mental well-being<\/a>. In addition, a study of workers who had recently lost their jobs found that those who experienced feelings of humiliation, anger, anxiety and relationship difficulties were three times more likely to find a new job than controls.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ezek a k\u00eds\u00e9rletek azt is kimutatt\u00e1k, hogy id\u0151vel azok, akik az \u00e9rzelmeikr\u0151l \u00edrtak, betekint\u00e9st nyertek abba, hogy mit is jelentenek (vagy nem jelentenek!) azok az \u00e9rzelmek, olyan kifejez\u00e9seket haszn\u00e1lva, mint \"R\u00e1j\u00f6ttem\", \"Eszembe jutott\", \"Az oka, hogy...\", \"Most \u00e9rtem\" \u00e9s \"Meg\u00e9rtem\". Az \u00edr\u00e1s folyamata lehet\u0151v\u00e9 tette sz\u00e1mukra, hogy \u00faj perspekt\u00edv\u00e1b\u00f3l l\u00e1ss\u00e1k az \u00e9rzelmeiket, \u00e9s jobban meg\u00e9rts\u00e9k azokat \u00e9s a jelent\u0151s\u00e9g\u00fcket.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here is an exercise you can use to reflect on your writing. <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

You can do this every day<\/strong>, de k\u00fcl\u00f6n\u00f6sen hasznos, ha \u00e9ppen neh\u00e9z id\u0151szakon megy kereszt\u00fcl vagy nagy \u00e1talakul\u00e1st \u00e9l meg, vagy ha \u00e9rzelmi zaklatotts\u00e1got tapasztal - vagy ha volt egy neh\u00e9z \u00e9lm\u00e9nye, amit \u00fagy \u00e9rez, m\u00e9g nem dolgozott fel teljesen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Set a 20-minute timer Use a notebook or computer to write down your emotional experiences over the past week, month or year.<\/strong>
Ne foglalkozzon azzal, hogy t\u00f6k\u00e9letes vagy olvashat\u00f3 legyen: hagyja, hogy az elm\u00e9je vigye a gondolatait. A v\u00e9g\u00e9n nem kell elmentenie a dokumentumot; a l\u00e9nyeg az, hogy azokat a gondolatok imm\u00e1r ki\u00edrta mag\u00e1b\u00f3l \u00e9s kint vannak \u00d6nb\u0151l egy pap\u00edron vagy egy dokumentumban...<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These three approaches - expanding vocabulary<\/strong>, the taking into account the intensity of emotion<\/strong> and the Description of<\/strong> - can also be used when you want to understand the feelings of others. As we saw with the example of Ede and his wife, we are just as likely to mislabel other people's emotions as our own, with similarly complicating consequences. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

By understanding more accurately how others feel, you will be better equipped to respond in a constructive way.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"Coaching<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Once you understand what you are feeling, you are better able to manage and learn from those more accurately described emotions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ha Anik\u00f3 foglalkozik azzal a szomor\u00fas\u00e1ggal \u00e9s megb\u00e1n\u00e1ssal, amit a cs\u0151dbe ment projektje kapcs\u00e1n \u00e9rez - valamint a karrierj\u00e9vel kapcsolatos aggodalmaival -, akkor ez termel\u00e9kenyebb, mintha csak azon t\u00f6prengene, hogyan kezelje a Ferenc ir\u00e1nti d\u00fch\u00e9t. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Illetve ha Zsolt fel tudja ismerni a saj\u00e1t p\u00e1ly\u00e1val kapcsolatos aggodalmait, akkor kezdhet terveket kov\u00e1csolni, hogyan alak\u00edtsa tudatosabban a j\u00f6v\u0151j\u00e9t - ahelyett, hogy minden este csak belemer\u00fclne t\u00f6bb ugyanolyan munk\u00e1ba, amikor haza\u00e9r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Naming and understanding our emotions more accurately helps us to know ourselves and others better, deal with difficulties more constructively and ultimately navigate our lives more successfully. While this can be challenging, the reward can be a richer, fuller life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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With a wider emotional vocabulary, we can communicate our feelings more accurately. <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Which helps others to better understand and accept them without judgement. Considering intensity helps you to respond appropriately - more moderately to milder emotions and more carefully to deeper ones. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

And through writing, we can gain distance from our emotions, allowing us to see them from a new perspective.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

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Labelling our emotions is a first step to understanding and managing them. <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

But once we can name them more precisely, we also begin to better understand their depth and complexity. This knowledge is the foundation for emotional resilience - the ability to harness our emotions constructively to achieve our goals, overcome obstacles and form fulfilling relationships with others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Understanding and managing our feelings can give us great power. When we recognise and accept them, emotions can be valuable guides rather than uncontrollable forces. <\/strong>This emotional awareness and resilience is essential leadership skills<\/a> in our turbulent world. It is worth the time and effort to better understand our emotions<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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